As my dear friend processes the loss of her other best friend, I reminded her of the Balinese approach which we are familiar with. Grief wants love to have a place to go. Taking that love to one’s altar for three days gives an opportunity to communicate with the soul of the dearly departed.
When we lost our son’s best friend who we treated like family to drowning, we all took turns at his altar. We gathered all of his favorite things and put them on the altar with a safe candle burning so we could regularly visit him. Each of us expressed our love for him as the shocking loss gave way to healthy grieving.
What do you do with your love when you have lost someone? Can you allow yourself to continue to express it? Ki to Happiness loves and looses and loves again and again, anyway.