When Bob returned from golfing with friends on Tuesday, he was chilled to the bone. Before bed, his hands were still cold, his affect flat, without any motivation to improve his condition. Seeing his state, I stopped what I was doing, and got him a cup of hot water to hold and to sip, since he refused any other effort and would make no effort on his own behalf.
He woke up yesterday morning revived, to my great relief. As he set out to golf again, he changed several of his behaviors to avoid a repeat. That helped me to revive my confidence in his ability to care for himself and further relieved me of any responsibility for his choices and consequences.
Are you willing to make the effort to improve your condition? Can you take responsibility for your choices and consequences? Ki to Happiness relinquishes responsibility for others and their choices as an effort to improve her own condition.